Wednesday, January 25, 2006

On Being Married

Have I mentioned how much I love my husband and how great it is to be married? No, ok then, I should start doing that more often.

I've also realized since being married that men and women really do have some funimental differences in how they think. At first I thought it was just Ben and I but the more I talk to other womena nd other couples I think it's a bit more universal.

First off, men have many fewer emotions than women. I think Ben has 4 (don't worry, he knows i'm blogging about this and finds the difference qite funny too). If he is feeling something it must fit into these four emotions, or he really doesn't know what to do with it, so he dismisses it. Women, on the other hand have many many emotions to choose from. Now, in my oppinion that makes communicationa little easier - you only need to clarify a few personal connotations instead of engaging in full fledged 20 questions to learn how the other person is feeling, but i've learned that, if i'm persistant, i can usually figure out what type of "happy" ben means if he says he's happy.

Another difference i've noticed is that men have the ability to not think. Women on the other hand have the ability to think various thoughts at the same time. It's like having layers of thought...one layer might be going over a song thats stuck in your head, another writing a list of things that need to be done, another mentaly writing an email to a friend and another listening to whatever is happening. This is usually natural all the time for women, every now and then something takes up a cople extra layers and we sem distracted, but usually we can cope fairly well. Rarely have i known a woman to be thinking nothing. they may say their thinking nothing, but they know that there was somehting going through their brain. Men on the otherhand can answer "nothing" quite honestly. It's taking me some time to get used to this.

These are just a couple observations so far, i'll share more as i keep learning

4 comments:

Sarah Gomez said...

I'd like to say that with **all honesty** i have quite a few moments of thinking about absolutely nothing -- i just suddenly realiza that time has passed and I have *no* memory of it. Perhaps I should see a doctor!

Heidi said...

Well... I am not married... but would suggest a great book- the companion to Wild at Heart by John Eldredge... its called Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul by him and his wife Stasi, and affirms the differences in the ways God created men and women differently. I'm about half way done and can't wait to read the rest!

elizabeth said...

Steph, I love you. And the layers things was very well choosen. Does this make us onions?

Denise :) said...

LOL... Good way of explaining things! Wild at heart was a great book. Tylers dad sent it to him, and then I read it.. I think its all pretty neat. I like the onion comment as well! ;) ANd I know you know what I think about this subject.. since I blogged about it last week too! :)
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